Families: Relationships and human happiness

Respectful relationships: Respect and friendship

Online and media: Rights, responsibilities and keeping safe

Mental wellbeing: Talking about emotions

Internet safety and harms: Reality vs the online world

Healthy lifestyles: Physical fitness and healthy eating

Health and prevention: Basic health

Changing adolescent body: Puberty and menstrual wellbeing

Families: Stable relationships and marriage

Respectful relationships: Stereotypes and bullying

Online and media: Harmful contact

Mental wellbeing: Recognising concerns

Internet safety and harms: Body Image

Drugs and alcohol: Smoking and Alcohol

Health and prevention: Sleep and routines

First aid

Families: Being safe and reporting concerns

Respectful relationships: Recognising and reporting criminal behaviour within relationships

Online and media: Indecent image sharing

Being safe: The law (consent, exploitation, and harassment)

Intimate relationships: Positivity and health

Mental wellbeing: Common types of ill health

Internet safety and harms: Relationships and social media

Drugs and alcohol: Prescription and illegal drugs

Health and prevention: Immunisation and vaccination

RSHE (PSHE)

Y7 RSHE (PSHE)

Key Stage 3

Year 7

UNIT

In this lesson, we will learn what mental wellbeing is. We will also be able to identify the factors that affect positive wellbeing.

What is mental wellbeing?

﻿Hello. I am Mrs. Smith. Welcome to our first lesson together for this unit, Mental Wellbeing, Talking About Our Emotions. In this lesson, you will learn about what mental wellbeing is and also the factors that affect our positive wellbeing. In this lesson, you will need a pen and paper so that you can make some notes. If you don't have that equipment in front of you now, just pause the video and come back when you are ready. I will now go through today's agenda. We will start by looking at this question, what is mental wellbeing? And defining our keywords today. Next, we will look at the factors that impact a positive wellbeing for us. We will then discuss ways to look after our own mental wellbeing. And then, we will reflect on what we have learned today. You will finish with an exit quiz. So, what is mental wellbeing? Pause the video now and just take a moment to consider what a good definition for this term might be. So, what did you come up with? Well, mental wellbeing is all about your thoughts and feelings and how you cope with the ups and downs of everyday life. It is not about being happy all of the time, but in fact, about how you react in the different situations that happen in everyday life. Well done, if you've got something similar to me. So, let's now have a go at our first task. On your piece of paper, I would like you to create a spider diagram about the pressures that you might have in your life. These could be big or small, and these may be different to mine or somebody else in your life. As an example, a good first pressure that we may all experience is homework. So, you can add that as an example. Pause the video now and have a go at adding some more ideas to that spider diagram. When you have finished, press play and resume the video. So, let's compare our spider diagrams. What else did you add? Don't worry if it is different from mine and feel free to take some more of my ideas to add to your spider diagram. So, I also added chores. We all have them. You might have to do things around the house to help out, and this might add an extra pressure. Friendships. Friendships can add pressures. So, remember to be kind to yourself and to others. Assessments. We all know about assessments by now. So, don't worry because we all have to experience them. And finally, the pressure to do well. That could be a pressure from other people or that might be a pressure that you put on yourself. But don't worry. Today's lesson is all about looking about how we can talk about these emotions, and we can find positive ways to deal with these pressures. Let's now have a look at some of the factors that can impact our positive wellbeing. The first one I would like to introduce you to is the importance of connecting with others. Having good relationships is really important, and it allows you to have a sense of belonging and gives you the opportunity to share positive experiences. Being physically active is another way to improve your mental wellbeing, as it raises your self esteem and causes chemical changes in your brain. It is also important to learn new skills. This will not only improve your mental wellbeing, but it will boost your self-confidence and build in you a sense of purpose. Pause the video now and consider. Do you have any strengths in these areas already? Research shows that another way to improve your mental wellbeing is by giving to others. This creates a positive thing for you and helps you to connect with those around you. Next, it is really important to be mindful. Paying more attention to the present moment will help to generate those positive thoughts and improve your mental wellbeing. And finally, sleep. Sleep is vital to ensure that you are ready for the day and that you can be the best possible version of yourself. Pause the video again now and consider where your strengths are in these areas. Let's have a go at this true or false activity now. So, is this statement true or false? Mental wellbeing is about your thoughts and feelings and how you cope every day. So, if you selected true, well done. That is a true statement. And remember, it is not about you being happy all the time but actually about how you react and deal with those different situations that are happening in your life. For this next part of the lesson, we are going to discuss ways that we can look after our own mental wellbeing. So, let's have a look at some examples. For this next activity, you are going to try a match-up of positive wellbeing factors with some examples that I have listed on the screen. Let's do one together, as an example. If we take connecting with others, which of the examples do you think matches best with this? Take a moment now to read through the list of activities on the screen. Now, I am sure you agree with me that a great way to connect with others is to have a family meal. And this could be at any time of the day. So, pause the video now. And on your piece of paper, have a go at matching up our positive wellbeing factors with the examples on the other side, just as we have done in this example. Take as long as you need. And when you are ready to carry on, just press play, and we will resume together. Are you ready to go through the answers? Let's have a look now at whether you agree with me in the examples that I matched with our positive wellbeing factors. So, we've already, together, discussed connecting with others and that a great way to do this is to have a family meal and to really catch up with those people in your life. The next factor to consider was how to learn a new skill. And, hopefully, you have also matched with this try a new hobby. And this could be absolutely anything and can be as simple as just needing the pen and paper in front of you. Your next positive wellbeing factor was about being physically active. I matched with this going for a walk with the dog. Now, you do not need a dog to go for a walk. And, actually, being physically active can be anything from doing some yoga to going for a run. The next factor was about how to give to others, and a great way to do this is to say thank you. Saying thank you will go a long way, and it will create positive feelings for both yourself and the person you are thanking. So, why not try that today? Our penultimate factor is sleep, and the best way to get a good night's sleep is to turn off our devices. And finally, being mindful. Try some meditation. Go to a quiet, calm space where you live and try out some box breathing. As simple as breathing in for four counts, pausing for four counts, and breathing out for four counts. It really is a great way to reconnect with yourself and to highlight your positive mental wellbeing. So, well done on those. Let's have a look now at our next activity. For our next activity, I would like you to consider how you look after yourself. And we are going to set some targets, using our spider diagrams from us starter activity, our list of positive wellbeing factors, and even the examples that we have just discussed. So, let's do an example together. If I wanted to improve my positive wellbeing factor of learning a new skill, I would create a spider diagram on my piece of paper that might look a little bit like this. So, I have written learning a new skill in the centre of my page. And I'm now going to consider three targets for myself. The first one is that I am going to offer to help cook a meal once a week. My second target I'm setting for myself is that I am going to download an app that's going to help me learn a new language. And my third target is I am going to start a new book and read. Now, hopefully, that's helped you in your next task because you are now going to pause the video and choose two or three of our factors and set yourself three targets for those. Of course, if you would like to look up more factors, that would be brilliant. But even just two or three is a great place to start. Pause the video now and resume when you are ready and you are happy with the targets that you have set. I hope that you found that activity useful and that you now have a lot of ideas to be getting on with to help to improve your mental wellbeing. Let's end now with a reflection. And I have three questions for you to consider. How do you look after your own mental wellbeing? Think back to our definition and the thoughts and feelings that you have every day. Remember to be kind to yourself. What changes can you make to improve your mental wellbeing? Hopefully, you now have lots of ideas of activities that you can try. And make sure you are sharing these with others because my final question is how can you help others with their mental wellbeing? It might be as simple as sharing the targets that you have set for yourself today. There might be someone else in your household who would like to join in and be part of your ideas for improving mental wellbeing. Thank you for working so hard today. You will finish the lesson with an exit quiz. But I cannot wait to see you again for our next lesson. Remember, if you would like to share your work and anything that you do in these lessons, you can with Oak National. I'll see you again very soon. Goodbye.

In this lesson, we will learn about the link between connection and your mental wellbeing. You will be able to understand the importance of quality friendships. 

Why is connecting to others important?

﻿Hello, and welcome to lesson two of our current unit, mental wellbeing, talking about our emotions. In this lesson, we will be looking at the link between connecting with others and our wellbeing. We will also consider the importance of quality friendships. In this lesson, you will need a pen, and some paper or an exercise book to write on. If you do not have this equipment right now, pause the video and go and get it. Just press play when you are ready to carry on. What is today's agenda? Well, we will start by answering this question, what is a connection to others? We will then discuss the link between those connections and our own mental wellbeing. We will then move on to decide who do we have connections with and look at what makes those quality, connections, and friendships. We will end with a reflection and an exit quiz. Let's start by seeing if you can remember our six ways to positive wellbeing that we learned about in the last lesson. I will give you some thinking time now, so pause the video and see if you can jot down as many of the six that you can remember. Let's see now, if you can remember the same six that we discussed last lesson. Now, remember, all of these things are vital in you having a positive mental wellbeing. And there are lots of examples that fit with these in order to help you. So, did you come up with the same things that I did? Being physically active, learning new skills, giving to others, being mindful, sleeping, and finally connecting to others. And this is what we are going to focus on today. Connection to others is about your relationships with the people around you. It can really help you to create a sense of belonging and self-worth. And you might even remember some of the examples that we discussed last lesson. So what is the link between connecting with others and our wellbeing? I'd like you to pause the video now and see if you can see a link between these two things. As humans, we are social creatures, and our social relationships are critical for our positive mental wellbeing. Relationships can help us feel that we belong. And it is important to make time and space for family and friends, as well as to make new connections with others. We are going to complete our first task now. I would like you to create a mind map with this in the middle, connecting with others. I would like you then to create some ideas that help you to connect with others. So let's do one as an example. My first idea would be, to have a family meal. You may want to add that to your mind map now. Please now, pause the video to complete the task. How many ideas can you come up with that help us connect to other people in our lives? Press play when you are ready to resume the video. Let's compare our mind maps now. Did you get any of the same ideas as me or perhaps you have got some different great ideas to help you to connect with others? So other examples that I've written down include, playing a card game or a board game, calling a relative to catch up with them, or arranging a walk with a friend. These are all some good ideas to help you connect with others. If you would like to pause the video now to compare on mind maps, that would be fantastic. See if you can add any more. Let's have a look now at some good and bad examples of connecting with others. I have created this list, and on your piece of paper or your exercise book, I would like you to create two lists. One of good examples, and one of bad examples. Let's take our first one here, a family dinner. Now, as we have already discussed, this is a good example of how we can look after our mental wellbeing by connecting with others. Pause the video and when you are ready, press play, and we will compare the list that you have made. Let's see if we have had the same ideas. So lets start with our bad examples, do you agree with me that sitting on your phone all day, watching TV alone, and staying inside all of the time are not good examples of how we can connect to others? In fact, these are the opposite. These mean spending lots of time alone and not really seeing or being with others. However, there are some good examples on that list and I am sure that these are some ideas that you are already doing yourselves. So having a family dinner, playing a card game or board game, having a day out with some friends, whether that's to go for a walk, using technology to stay in touch with your family and friends, and also cooking with a parent or carer. These are all fantastic ways for you to connect with the people in your lives and even maybe meeting someone new. A quick true or false now for you, connections with others provide emotional support and allow you to support others. Do you think this is true or false? Point to the screen now. If you pointed to true, then well done, this is true. And it is all about providing support to others and receiving support as well. And that is really important for your mental wellbeing, so well done. What about this one there? Watching TV alone will improve your connections with others. Again, point to the screen, is this true or false? I'm sure you agree with me that this is false, and that actually, what might be a better way to spend your time is to turn that television off and see if anyone would like to play a card or board game with you, or perhaps you could cook a meal together. Now I would like you to think about who you have connections with. Pause the video and consider the different people in your lives and how you connect with them. What different types of connections did you come up with? Now, I have created a list here, but yours might be different to mine, so don't worry. There are many different people in all of our lives and these may include our carers, our friends, our pets, and even the school staff. Write down how you have been helped by any of these groups of people or even the names on your list that you wrote down before. Pause the video now and add some notes to how these different groups of people have helped you. Another true or false statement here for you now. Having lots of friends is more important than having a few good ones. What do you think? Point to either true or false. So hopefully, you agree with me that that statement is false. It is absolutely nice to have lots of friends, but remember, that it is more important to have a few good quality friends around you that are there to provide support and people that you can really trust. Good quality friendships will help you to build in confidence. And I would like you now to think about your best friends. Why are they your best friends? What qualities do you consider when you are choosing your friends? An important quality for me is that my friends will listen. Pause the video now and take the time to think about the qualities that you look for. Press play when you're ready to compare our answers. Let's have a look now at whether we have got the same list. And you will look for different qualities to me, so remember that that is okay, but let's see if we've got anything that was similar. So we've already discussed that I think it's important to have someone who listens, but also I like my friends to have a sense of humour, as well as someone that I can trust and who is there to encourage me, to make me want to be the best possible version of myself and that will help me to make good choices. This brings us to our reflection. When was the last time that you made time to talk to those that care for you at home? When was the last time that you contacted a friend to check that they were okay? And how do you think you could improve the connections that you have with others? These are all really important questions to consider, now that we have completed this lesson. You now have an exit quiz to do. If you would like to share your work with Oak National, make sure you check with your parents and carers and tag @OakNational on Twitter. Thank you so much for again, working so hard and for completing lesson two. I will see you again very soon. Goodbye.

In this lesson, we will learn about the importance of limiting your time online and the negative effects of too much screen time. 

How does time online impact our mental wellbeing?

﻿Hello, welcome back to this unit of work, mental wellbeing talking about our emotions. in this lesson, we will be discussing the importance of limiting our screen time and also the possible negative effects of spending too much time online. For this lesson you will need an exercise book or some paper and a pen to write with. If you do not have these things in front of you now pause the video and get the equipment that you need. Let's now have a look at our agenda for today's lesson. We will start with this question. How does being online impact our mental wellbeing? We will then look at why limiting screen time is important. And discuss the effects of spending too much time online, and using screens. We will then reflect on how we can manage our mental wellbeing online. And you will finish the lesson with an exit quiz. Today's keywords include, mental wellbeing. This is all about your thoughts and feelings and how you cope with the ups and downs of everyday life. Our second keyword today, is cyber bullying. This is when somebody uses technology to bully someone online. Our first question today, is how does being online impact our mental wellbeing? There are of course positive impacts from being online. And for me, the first one that comes to mind is that I am able to use technology, screens, and being online in order to meet and stay in contact with people from all over the world. I would like you to pause the video now and think of any other reasons that you could add to this list. Let's have a look to see if you have anything that I have got on my longer list. So we've already discussed but it is a good way to meet other people from around the world. But did you also consider that it is an easy and cheap way to communicate? And it also provides access to lots of different support groups that can be available online. You may have other things on your list, which is fantastic and make sure you're sharing those with the people that you live with. Now let's consider the negative impacts, because sadly there are negative impacts about being online. If we think about our keyword today cyber bullying, using technology to bully someone online is a negative impact of using screens. Pause the video now and see if there is anything else that you can think of that may be a negative impact of being online. Let's now have a look at what you wrote on your list and compare it to mine. Some of the things that I added, was the fear of missing out or possibly being jealous of another person. There is also that pressure to look a certain way. And these things can really have a negative impact on our mental wellbeing. Why is limiting screen time so important? I would like you now to pause the video and reflect back and see how many of the six ways to positive wellbeing you can remember. Pause the video now and press play when you're ready to resume. Right, let's see how many you can remember. Being physically active, learning new skills, giving to others, being mindful, sleeping, and finally connecting with others. Although using a screen and being online can support with all of these ways to positive mental wellbeing, remember you do not always have to rely on a screen. There are ways to complete these activities without having to go online or use a device. Let's reflect on some activities that we have already discussed in these lessons that would not need you to go online. Pause the video now and see how many ways you can remember. Okay, let's see what you got. Hopefully, you remembered that having a family meal, playing a card game or playing a board game, going for a walk or going to play a game outside with your friends are all examples of ways to positive wellbeing that do not need you to go online or to use a device. Let's move on to our next question. What are the effects of spending too much time using screens? in order to do this, meet Nikki. We are now going to have a look at a typical day for Nikki. I'm going to give you some examples from Nikki's day and on your piece of paper or the worksheet, I would like you to decide whether the event is a positive experience or a negative experience. If you need to pause the video to get the equipment that you need, do that now. So let's start. Nikki wakes up at 7:30 AM and checks his phone. He spends 30 minutes scrolling through social media and everybody just seems so happy and perfect. Is this a positive experience for Nikki or a negative experience? Decide now. Hopefully you agree with me that is a negative experience. That is not a good start to Nikki's day. Next, Nikki uses his phone to message his friends so that they can meet at the bus stop together and travel into school. Is this a positive experience or a negative experience? This is a positive experience. Nikki is using this to keep himself safe and to make sure that he can arrive on time to school. Nikki is not allowed to use his phone in school, but he wonders all day about whether he is missing out on any updates. Is this a positive experience or a negative experience? Again, this is a negative experience. Nikki is not able to consider his day. As soon as Nikki leaves the school gate he checks his phone, he spends the entire bus journey, checking notifications and watching videos with his headphones in. Is this a positive experience or a negative experience? It is a negative experience. Once again, Nikki is not in the present moment, is he? When Nikki gets home he uses his phone to check what homework he needs to do. Is this a positive experience or a negative experience? This is a good use of Nikki's phone. He's able to catch up with what homework he needs to do and that keeps his school, his family and himself happy. After finishing his homework, Nikki watches a video to help him to practise a new football skill. Again, is this a positive experience or a negative experience? Hopefully you've seen there that Nikki is using his phone towards one of his ways to positive wellbeing, learning a new skill. During his evening meal, Nikki messages his friends and laughs out loud at their messages. Is this a positive experience? Or a negative experience? Hopefully you've seen there that is a negative experience. Once again, Nikki is unable to concentrate on the present moment. Later on, in bed, Nikki spends more time updating his social media and he falls asleep with his phone in his hand. Is this a positive experience or a negative experience? I am sure that you agree with me that this is a negative experience. So what can we do with this information? Well, your main task today is to pause the video and to rewrite Nikki's experiences. How can you make Nikki's day more positive? Rewrite it on your worksheet or on your piece of paper and reflect on how Nikki is using his social media. Press play when you are ready to resume. Let's now compare our notes, and have a look at my examples and see if you think these are much more positive ways for Nikki to experience his day. So we start with when Nikki wakes up in the morning. And I think a much more positive start to Nikki's day would be to get out of bed, have a shower and get dressed. Go downstairs and enjoy a healthy breakfast and get ready for his day. The next experience that we saw Nikki having was him not being able to use his phone in school, but thinking about his phone all day. And constantly wondering whether he was going to have updates or notifications when the final school bell went. Now, I think, a much more positive experience for Nikki would be to focus on his lessons and the friends that he has got in school. By doing this, he is being more mindful, and he can really experience and enjoy those things around him. The next part of Nikki's day that we discussed was when he left the school gates and he immediately checked his phone and spent the entire journey on it. How can we make Nikki's day more positive here? Well, I think Nikki should consider checking his phone but then putting it away and then spending his bus journey with his friends. We then saw that Nikki spent his evening meal texting and laughing at messages that he had received from his friends. Instead, Nikki should consider offering to help with his evening meal. This will really help him to connect with others and sitting down and enjoying it, asking about other people's day and telling everybody about what he has learned and the experiences that he has had during his school day. The final experience that we discussed was Nikki falling asleep with his phone in his hand. How did you make this more positive? For me, I think Nikki should use the phone perhaps for a meditation app. This will help him to wind down. But then, he should turn his phone off place it away and go to sleep without any distractions. This will ensure that he has a much better quality of sleep and he will then be more ready for the next day. Thank you for taking part in that activity. And I hope that there are lots of ideas that you can take away and just small changes that you might want to make in your life. Let's end our lesson with a reflection. How can we manage our mental wellbeing online? Pause the video and consider this question for yourself. There are many ways that we can manage our mental wellbeing whilst we're online. And to do so, think about how much time you are spending on a typical day on your phone or on another device online. How could you reduce that time? And if you really want to challenge yourself, how do you think social media could be improved to make it a more positive experience for young people? As with every lesson, you will now have an exit quiz to complete. And if you would like to share any of your work from this lesson, please check with a parent or carer and use the #Oaknational on Twitter. It has once again, been a wonderful lesson with you and thank you so much for being part of it, goodbye.

In this lesson, we will understand that we all have a range of emotions and that we can choose how to respond to situations. 

Our behaviours, thoughts and feelings

﻿Hello, welcome to our next lesson in this unit of work Mental well-being: Talking about emotions. In this lesson, we will understand that we all have a range of emotions, and that we can choose how to respond to these different situations. This lesson covers some content that may be a sensitive topic for you. We recommend checking with a trusted adult before starting or doing the lesson with a trusted adult nearby. For today's lesson, you will need an exercise book or paper and a pen to write with. If you do not have this equipment with you now, go and get it and press play when you are ready to resume. Let's now have a look at our agenda for today. We will start by looking at a range of emotions. And asking the question why do we have a range of emotions? We will then look at how emotions act as a response, and how we can manage the effect of these emotions. We will finish with a reflection and an exit quiz. Our keyword for today's lesson is emotions. These are strong feelings, which come from our circumstances, our mood or our relationships with others. Let's start by discussing the range of emotions that we all experience. Can you list any emotions? I'll get you started. The first emotion that comes to my mind is happiness. I would like you to pause the video now and see how many more emotions you can add to your list. Okay. Let's have a look at the six main emotions that we all experience and see if you have got those on your list. The six main emotions are happiness, sadness, fear, disgust, anger and surprise. Did you get any of those? Now, you may have other emotions written down and that's really good. Well done. But we're going to focus on these six for the next part of the lesson. So as we have already seen, there are six main emotions. What we're going to do now is decide whether we think these are a positive emotion or a negative emotion. Now, on the screen here, this is a continuum line. So you can place these words anywhere you like along the continuum line. So for example, let's take, where do you think we would place this on the line? Point to the screen now. I have placed disgust here on the continuum line. It does have more negative connotations. However, sometimes disgust is good because it stops us from doing something that we don't really want to do. I would like you to pause the video now and have a go at placing the other five emotions upon the continuum line. Press play when you are ready to compare our responses. Are you ready to compare our continuum lines? As you can see, I have placed the emotions at different positions on the line. And in fact, I haven't put anything as a completely negative emotion because even fear and anger can have a positive outcome for us. For example, if we are scared of something, it means we might not do something that is dangerous. Your line might look different to mine and that is fine. We all view emotions in a different way. But what we now need to look at is how we manage those emotions. Some are very powerful and we can experience them quickly. Sometimes these emotions cause us to react. And sometimes this means we have not spent enough time reflecting on our actions. It is really healthy that we experience positive and negative emotions. For example, if a pet was to sadly die, it is healthy for us to feel sad because negative emotions mean that we are processing what has happened. What matters is how we deal with them. Pause now and consider the benefits of having both positive and negative emotions. I would now like you to pause the video and complete the task which is on your worksheet. You need to watch the video and respond to the questions. Press play when you are ready to resume the rest of the lesson. Why do we have a range of emotions? Well, one reason is our hormones. Your body, during puberty in particular, is releasing a lot of hormones and these are both physical and emotional changes. The second reason is brain development. Our brain's neurons need to be constantly pruned and our synapses can be lost or strengthened, depending on how often we use them. They help us to make clearer choices and as a teenager, your brain is not as socially mature, so it cannot always regulate decisions. But this is a golden time for learning and growth for your brain. Let's see if you can remember our list of emotions. Pause the video now and see if you can write down all six on your piece of paper. Let's see. Did you get happiness, sadness, fear, disgust, anger and surprise? Well done if you did get all six. Let's now have a look at our emotions as a response. Remember that there are no good or bad emotions. But what is important is how we react to different situations. You should know that you are not alone in how you are feeling. It will not last forever. And you can train your brain to cope with different reactions in different situations. A true or false question for you here. Emotions are strong feelings which comes from our circumstances, our mood or even our relationships. Point to the screen now. Is this statement true or false? I am sure that you agree with me that this is a true statement as it matches with our keyword from the beginning of the lesson. Let's now discuss how we can manage the effects of our different emotions. First of all, it's important to name the feeling. What emotion are you experiencing? Anger, happiness, fear, disgust? Naming it helps you to identify how you are feeling. Next, accept. Many people worry that their feelings will intensify for them. So they avoid this feeling in hope that it will go away. However, the opposite is true and avoidance only fuels the emotion. Remind yourself that it is good to feel your feelings. And say to yourself it's okay to feel angry, happy, sad. Next, express. Expressing your feeling is the only way to release it. For example, you can express your feelings by writing about them, talking to someone, crying and relaxing or even exercising. Just be sure that you choose an activity that doesn't hurt yourself or anybody else. And finally, pick a way to look after yourself. Ask yourself this question. What do I need right now to take care of myself? You might need a hug, a nap, a walk or some support from someone. Let's remind ourselves now of those really important steps. Number one, name the feeling. Number two, accept what you are feeling. Number three, express your feeling. And number four, pick a healthy way to take care of yourself. Pause the video now and think back over those four steps. Let's take an example. Step one, name the feeling. Well, let's pretend and name the feeling as anger. What we have to do next is to accept the feeling. I am angry. Say that to yourself. And I am angry because my friends left me out at lunchtime. Step three is to express your feeling. So you might want to write down your thoughts and what specifically made you angry. And finally, pick a healthy way to express that feeling. So it might be you like to exercise. So going for a run might also be a good way for you to help manage your emotion of anger. Your next activity is to pause the video and choose three more emotions and work through the four-step process. Feel free to go back to look at that slide and remember to press play when you are ready to resume. Well done for taking part in that activity. I thought I would share another emotion with you and work through the step process. So the emotion this time that I have chosen is happiness. I've accepted the way that I am feeling and identified that it is because I know I have people that I can talk to. I'm going to express that feeling by writing down on a piece of paper how somebody has made me feel good about myself. And to take care of myself, and act on that feeling, I am going to message my friend and thank them for being there for me. I hope that you can see the advantage of this four-step process and that you have written down some ideas for how you might manage different emotions that you experience. We will finish today's lesson with a reflection. Let's remember that you can have positive and negative emotions but there is no such thing as good or bad emotions. It is really important that you accept how you are feeling, identify it and express it. But make sure that you are choosing a healthy way that looks after yourself when you are expressing your emotions. You now have an exit quiz to complete. And if you would like to share any of your work today with us, please do so on Twitter using the @OakNational handle. Thank you again for joining me on this lesson and I hope to see you again very soon. Bye bye.

In this lesson, we will learn about the emotions associated with grief. We will also discuss some possible coping strategies and how we can support each other. 

Dealing with grief

﻿Hello and welcome to our final lesson in this unit, Mental Wellbeing, talking about our emotions. Now in this lesson, we will learn about the emotions associated with grief. We will also discuss some possible coping strategies and how we can support each other. Now, this lesson does contain sensitive content. So please make sure that if you are feeling uncomfortable you have either had an appropriate adult to check through the lesson prior to you going through it or that you have a trusted adult nearby. For this lesson, you will need either an exercise book or some paper and a pen to write with. If you don't have that equipment in front of you now just pause the video collect what you need and press play, when you are ready to carry on. Let's now have a look at the agenda for today's lesson. We will start by discussing the emotions that can be associated with grief. We will discuss some possible coping strategies and how we can support others. We will then end with a reflection and exit quiz. Our keyword for today's lesson is grief. Now, most people will experience grief when they lose someone or something important to them. Let's start by discussing the emotions that can be associated with grief. I would like to begin this lesson by getting you to think back to last lesson. And can you remember any of the emotions that we discussed? They were six in total. Pause the video now and write down on your piece of paper, as many as those emotions that you can remember. Press play when you're ready to find out if you got them right. So let's see. On your piece of paper, have you written down the following, happiness, sadness, fear, disgust, anger and surprise. These were the six emotions we discussed last lesson. And you might find that some of these are similar to when we talk about emotions and grief and some of these are very different. Bereavement grief and loss can cause many different symptoms and they affect people in completely different ways. There is no right or wrong way to deal with grief. As well as bereavement, there are other types of loss. Such as the end of a relationship or the loss of a job or home. Here are some commonly associated emotions with grief. Shock and numbness. This is usually what is reported as the first reaction to loss. And often people talk about being in a daze. Overwhelming sadness and uncontrollable crying. Tiredness or exhaustion. And sometimes anger towards the person that you have lost or the reason for your loss. And finally, guilt. Guilt about feeling angry about something you said or did about something you didn't say and not being able to stop your loved one from dying. These feelings may not be there all the time and powerful feelings can overcome us unexpectedly. It is not always easy to recognise grief or loss as the reason that you are acting or feeling differently. And the timescales can be different for every single person. Let's now discuss some coping strategies because there are lots of different ways to support you and others out there. How you grieve depends on many different factors, including your personality, your coping style, your life experience, your faith and the nature of your loss. There is no normal timetable. And you should allow the process to naturally unfold. Please be patient with yourself. Time for an activity now. Here on the screen, are some different ways that people might consider when dealing with grief. I would like you to pause the video and to organise these onto your piece of paper as to things that you think are good ways to deal with grief and things that you think are not good ways to deal with grief. For example, talking about your feelings. Do we think that is a good way to deal with grief or not so positive way? I am sure that you all agree with me that that is a good way to deal with grief. And talking to others and sharing your feelings is a very important part of the process. Pause the video now and complete the activity on the piece of paper in front of you. Press play when you are ready to resume. So, let's compare our answers. Now I have decided that all of these are good ways to deal with grief. So as before we discussed talking about your feelings. Getting help if you are struggling to sleep. Setting yourself small manageable targets. Considering peer support, talking to your friends, reaching out both to your family and your school, and even taking time to listen to relaxation or meditation apps. My list for things that are not a positive way to deal with grief included, feeling alone. You are not alone. Lots of people have dealt with grief, are dealing with grief, I would know of the people you should always feel there is someone that you can talk to. Trying to do everything at once. Again, this is not possible. So please take time and go back to settings small targets. And finally, focusing on things that you cannot change. It's really important to remember, that all you can do is to control the things that are controllable, not everything is. And do make sure that you are sharing your emotions and sharing the workload around you. Well done. Pause the video now, if you want to make any amendments to your table and when you're ready let's move on. A true or false question for you here. Now this is our keyword from earlier in this unit of work. Emotions are strong feelings which come from our circumstances, our mood or relationships with others. Is that a good, true definition or is that false? Point to the screen now. I am sure that you have remembered that well. That is a true definition for the word emotion. Can you now remember those emotions that we discussed were associated with grief? Pause the video and see how many you can jot down on your piece of paper. Press play, when you're ready to see the list again. Now remember, these are commonly associated emotions. So you might experience completely different ones and that's okay. They were shock and numbness, overwhelming sadness, tiredness, anger, and guilt. Pause the video, if you want to make any changes to the list that you have made. Another true or false statement for you here. Not everybody will experience grief when they lose something or someone. Point to the screen now, with whether you considered this to be true or false. I'm sure that you agree with me and remember the keyword from today's lesson that actually most people will experience grief when they lose something or someone important to them. Now, once again, reflect back on the previous lesson you might remember that we discussed this as a coping strategy. Can you remember what order these different steps went in? Pause the video now, and rearrange these statements onto your piece of paper. Press play when you are ready to resume. So the first step we discussed last lesson was to name the feeling that you are experiencing. We then discussed, accepting the feeling. Saying it out loud, always helps. Next, finding a way to express the feeling and finally picking a healthy way to take care of yourself. If you need to make any amendments, to what you wrote down on your piece of paper, pause the video now, and do so. So, let's have a think about how we could use that system and those steps, when we are talking about grief. If for example, we name the feeling as anger. We discussed at the beginning that it's okay to feel angry. You might feel angry with the person that has died or with yourself, but what's important is that you accept what you are feeling. You might say this statement, I am angry. I am angry that someone has left me. Express the feeling. You might do this by writing it down and reading it back to yourself. And when finding a healthy way to deal with the feeling of anger you might think about asking for support, share with them your thoughts and feelings and ask for help. So is this statement true or false? We should discuss how we are feeling with others. I'm sure you agree with me that over these lessons that I have said this is a very important thing to do. And so therefore this statement is true. Talk to people around you, whether that be your family your friends, or your school, there are lots of people in your life that will want to listen to you and we'll want to help you. The next part of our lesson, is to discuss how we can help others. I would like you to take some thinking time now, and consider this question. Why should we talk about grief? Pause the video for a minute or so, and think about, why this might be an important thing to do. So, what did you come up with? Nobody should feel alone. And everybody should know that grief is hard. Grief is associated with many different emotions. And it is important that you know that by talking about them, you support others and yourself. It is far better to say something than to avoid talking about or discussing the issue all together. That is why it is important to talk about grief. Our next task, is to think about ways that we can help others. I would like you to create a spider diagram on your piece of paper. I'm going to start you off. This is my first idea on how I think we could help others through the process of grief. Offering to spend lunch or break time with someone might give them that support that they need. They may wish to talk about the grief that they are experiencing or they may wish to talk about other things. And that is okay. Pause the video now and complete the spider diagram with some more ideas on how you could help others through the process of grief. Press play, when you are ready to share some ideas. I would like to share with you now, some more ideas on how we could help others during the process of grief. Make sure that you talk and listen to the other person. Don't try to tell them how they should be grieving. Remember we have discussed today that there is no normal timetable and everybody will experience grief differently. And finally, offer practical help. That might be sending them the homework that was set that day or even doing shopping for them. Helping others through the process of grief is not easy, but it is wonderful if you can try and help, even in the smallest of ways. Part two of this task, is to think about how you can actually help yourself if you are going through grief. Once again, let's make a spider diagram together. My first idea for helping yourself during grief is to see a counsellor. These are available in person and online and it will give you the opportunity to speak to someone who was a little bit removed from the situation and express how you are feeling. Pause the video now, and see if you can add anything else to the spider diagram. How else can you help yourself, if you go through the process of grief? Press play, when you are ready to once again, share ideas. Let's now share some additional ideas. So another way to deal with the process of grief might be to do something to celebrate the life of the person that you have lost. It is important as well that you find perhaps a creative outlet to help you to deal with the process of grief. This might be some art projects like painting or drawing. And finally, there are lots of useful podcasts and apps out there that might help you with the process. Do have a look at the technology that is available to you. Let's end today's lesson with a reflection. You also have an exit quiz to complete and this summarises the whole unit of work that we have completed together. When reflecting on today's lesson, remember, that most people experience grief when they lose something or someone important to them. Grieving is highly personal and then an individual experience for us all. And whatever your grief experience, it is important to be patient with yourself. Don't forget that. I would really encourage you, that if you have been affected by anything in this lesson, to reach out to other people to help. There are lots of useful websites out there and people in your family and at your school might be able to advise you further. If you would like to share any of your work from today's lesson, remember to do so using the #LearnwithOak. Thank you so much for joining me once again. And I look forward to working with you again in the future. Bye Bye.

Unit Overview: Mental wellbeing: Talking about emotions

Lessons:

What is mental wellbeing?

Why is connecting to others important?

How does time online impact our mental wellbeing?

Our behaviours, thoughts and feelings

Dealing with grief